We might have heard this four alphabet word LOVE for an uncountable number of times in our lives, we might have witnessed it, we might have felt it, we might have talked about it , We might have felt its existence, we might have claimed to be in love, but how many of us actually understand Love? Have you ever asked yourself what is Love? Have you ever got an answer to this question in your minds? Well hold on, let us take deep breaths, open your hearts and close our eyes to understand love
“Love is that irresistible, restless yet peaceful, pleasurable yet painful, felt yet unfelt, told yet untold, desirable yet undesirable, controlled yet uncontrolled feeling or emotion we feel but we can’t put it into our words, it triggers butterflies in our stomach yet rips us apart in a second. If Love is a pleasure then there exists no greater pain than LOVE. Love is that feeling that connects you with the Almighty In a way you had never been connected, Love will let you smile, then it will make you cry and then make you smile again, Love can never be explained! It can only be felt”
Relationship as the world itself indicates is the feeling of being related to, or feeling of being connected.
We are connected to people around us in many different ways. Being connected as friends, Connected to our parents, family members, Connected as husband or wife, sister or brother, as a teacher or strong. All these relationships bind us in unbreakable bonds.
Love and Relationship:
Love and Relations they can be depended and independent on each other. Being in a relationship does not mean a person should be in Love. Relationships are built on understanding too. Love makes it easy for a relationship to last forever because when you love someone you always want to be with your partner, help your partner and being first in representing your love towards your partner hence minimizing chances of separations
Stages of Love in Relationship:
There are mainly three stages of Love in a relationship.
- The beginning Or attraction phase
- The Confession phase
- Acceptance or Rejection phase
Stage 1: The beginning:
The First Eye look:
Beginning of love starts with meeting of eyes, Eyes has a way a communication more impactful than the mouth. In our daily life thousands of faces passes by our eyes, we meet different people, talk with different people but then one face comes out of nowhere and is fed in our minds. Our Eyes are automatically pasted on that one face and we are completely drawn to that one tiny face and our heart register that face in its deepest corner accepting it the only face he had been looking for since year.
Incorporation into Dreams, Imaginations:
Once a person finds its perfect match he starts to think about it. He start incorporating his lover into his dreams and imaginations which were once seen by him alone. Incorporation of his lover into his dreams gives him pleasure. The person automatically start adjusting his love into all aspects of life.
Realization of Being in Love:
Realization of being in love is considered to be one of most beautiful stages of love, you start getting butterflies in your stomach. Thinking about the one you love gives you infinite pleasure. You start to smile with yourself, you start talking to yourself, and you start to create Perfect scenarios in your mind about you and your lover in your imaginations. The dreams of your lover keeps you restless and this is the point where you realize you are in Love. You see your lover face in all the beautiful faces and you feel likes your lover face is just alike to all beautiful faces that exists around you.
Searching Your Lover:
When you realize you are in love, you start searching your lover. You create means to contact your lover in order to confess your feelings to the one who you though your do feel nervous at the thought of confession itself and you start moving towards the next phase of love, The-Confession
Stage 2: Confession phase:
Not all, but very few brave ones take to this stage, Confessing your Love to someone you don’t know loves you back is the difficult task ever because you can’t afford all your dreams of phase 1 to be broken. Here one Guideline comes to the rescue
“Always believe in your love rather than believing in the love of the one you love”
Have that strong believe in yourself that whatever happens acceptance or rejection you will handle it, you will not let yourself be so weak. Even if you think your heart might break, build in yourself the courage the mend your broken heart again.
Stage 3: Acceptance or Rejection Phase;
Is there any feeling more pleasurable in this world than getting that love acceptance letter from your lover? Is there any feeling more satisfying that the feeling of being loved by the person you are so madly in love with? The answer is absolutely NO,
Not all on this earth are so lucky to get back the same amount of love they give. But if you are at stage of your life where your partner loves you the same way you love them. Do not let go of that love since there is no other precious feeling on this earth than feeling of being loved.
Rejection is definitely the worst thing that ever existed on earth. When you are rejected you feel like you have no reason to live on, no reason to be happy, no reason to accomplish your career, you feel like doing nothing. Every second you breath, you feel like someone just torn your heart, the pain is not physical yet it can be seen.
But always remember one thing in your life
“When someone breaks your heart, someone else is waiting to fix it for you”
First love is never forgotten, but it doesn’t mean your First is your last. As it’s said in Quran
“It’s possible, that something you like might not be beneficial for you and something you dislike might be beneficial for you”
If you are in stage of acceptance or rejection of your love in a relationship, always remember one thing both has its own kind of pleasures that are must to be tasted.
Influence of Love on a Relationship:
Following are the points on how love influences a relationship
- Softening Of Heart
- Attitude of Being Positive all the time
- Change in Life style for someone
- Establishment of a strong Motivational set up
- Development of Understanding
- Attitude of Saying sorry
- Being First
- Always ready to work for your partner
- Infinite care and Trust
- A great support medium
Above were the stages of love according to me and how love influences a relationship, for you the stages might be different for me it’s different. Love is a blessing in both ways, if your partner is with you or not. The feeling of loving is enough to lead a life full of pleasures.