What’s Your Antivirus in Life
The word Antivirus is used to tackle any negative force which is influencing your system, performance & process. In this article, I consider humans as computers & all the negativity as virus.
Well, computer has hard drive and we have brain. Computer has RAM to speed up his work and we have the passion and persistence to do so. Computers have screen to show the result of all the inputs and we our-self work as a projection to others .Computers have USB plugs to transfer data from one pc to other and we do the same through networking, communication, learning and helping each other. Computer has antivirus to secure it’s system against all the negative forces operating against it from outside & inside. The entire human also has antivirus against negativity around them which I will discuss below. What I observe in my life is that, there are a lot of negative forces operating around us and within us. They are just there to infect our internal system which is your brain, heart & believes. Thus as a result our life gets infected. So, in this article we will try to know all these viruses and what can be our possible antivirus against it.
Everyone suffers in life but great people always turn negativity into positivity rather than fighting against them, utilize them and turn into opportunity
Danish Khan Yousafzai
During childhood, children do anything they want to, play with everything without having any fear .They do everything they love to but still there are a lot of things which parents kept them away from due to which they are unable to learn from those experiences .At this stage, all the people around them always try to stop them from new experiences, not allowing them to play in play grounds due to which in future they won’t be able to face new people. Not allowing them to play with street children may cause fear in interacting new people. Moreover one sentence is very common to them“Don’t do this”. When they experience all this then it becomes very difficult for them in the future life. First virus to them is if they are growing up in such environment. The biggest responsibility here is of parents to allow their children to face new experiences. Let them play, let them fall, let them meet people, let them experience hunger, let them cry and let them experience everything in early age which will remove the fear factor forever and children do become fearless and become a leader in every field. First antivirus in us can be installed by our parents. I know guys this had not happened to you, same as for me but still you can make it somehow if work hard and intelligently for it.
Coming to school life, when I was told by my teachers that you are not good in Mathematics and was de-motivated by them who were supposed to motivate me, encourage me to find my talent and skill. Thinking now back at my past, they worked as a virus for me at that time and I didn’t had any antivirus at that time to get rid of. So, I suffered.
In college days, I used to be in company of bad friends. They use to bunk classes a lot and I was involved with them in all non- academic activities, again virus in my life but had no antivirus at that time to stop all these negative inputs which affected my studies. Here again I suffered! I wish I had at that time.
Talking about, when we step into our university life, we are mostly surrounded by friends who always carry negative thoughts, they are those, who always used to say “let’s go to canteen to chit chat” as they have never met before, “Let’s have fun“as they are there not to study but just for fun and many more such sentences which we all hear in our university life. Yes, again viruses to our life. This can damage our academic life. If want to get rid of it than you must Sit alone today to find your Antivirus, it can be your mental thought, your best friend, teacher, your parents or a trainer. Being in company of good people will always help you to push forward and help to delete these viruses.
In university life if you are cheated by someone (which happens mostly), if you have crush on someone she/he is not taking interest in you, now what to do? Well, this can be a dangerous virus in your life, this can make or break you as most of us are emotionally driven and think emotionally. If you find a good friend it can help you a lot during your university life which makes it happy and meaningful but if the case is opposite to it then it can affect your internal system (brains). You can be easily distracted by her/his imaginations in this case you have to find out your antivirus to block all the mental threats you are receiving. Solution to this virus can be, a better understanding of situation if you have a good virus free brain, a good friend, teacher, counselor who can be a good option as well to discuss and ask for help. Try this, stay alone and give yourself time to think how you can get her/his attraction by building your positive personality, ideal can be start taking part in class, doing great presentation, to come in good books of teachers, to become the best and talented student of university. Now you see, you used your mental strength to tackle the situation which was acting as virus to you and at the end you’re well known in university. Now, guys that girl/boy (mostly happen) will start following you now. Use the situation to discover yourself and challenge yourself. It will help you to leave your comfort zone and start doing the things which can do wonders for your life. Falling in love is not a positive thing while in university but using the situation for yourself makes it great for you, after that you won’t go for him/her instead you will be aiming high and dreaming big. In no time you will be living a life of your own a great and amazing one. (Learn the art of using situation).
Let’s talk about our teachers who are mostly acting as a virus in our student life and this is the most dangerous one, because they are supposed to act as antivirus. I have come across with many experiences in which a teacher is pointing a particular student and saying “you are worthless student” but the fact is that, he’s not worthless but he’s not good just in a particular subject but great in other subjects. Teachers never understand that a student can’t be good in every subject. Teacher always have an impact on the students, his motivational and de-motivational words both matters a lot. Students must have strong antivirus against that. It can be other teachers, friends, relative who is in practical life, counselor or trainer who can put them on highly motivational road.
Sometime, your parents act like virus too in your life by saying “You have to become Doctor/Engineer” without knowing the interest and skills of their children. A good antivirus in this case can be your mental strength to take decisions and convince them to your interest, and also your good friend who has gone through such phase. Even talking to a teacher who you think can guide you better can be a good option. Always do what you love to do and what you are good at. Don’t allow any virus to affect your internal system which is your mind, because when it gets affected once then you are gone.
Girls, these lines are just for you as I have observed a lot that a girl is forced to get married to a person whom she never knows. In this situation their parents are acting as virus because they must take her daughter on board while engaging her for a life time. And in most cases she is emotionally blackmailed to go against her wish. For parents, I would like to say, if she’s doing education, let her complete, if she is willing to do job after education let her, don’t force her to take care of kitchen on this stage. Because these are the parents who make a 9 year kid Arfaa Karim a computer genius and there is much more diamonds in our society but if parents support their daughters! Doing job is not allowed for girls, in the most cases again the virus is no one but parents or the society who are not willing to trust and understand their daughters.Girls, let me tell you one thing if you have dreams, want to do something great in life you still can do it from your home. All the technologies are available, internet is there no information is far now. So don’t bring excuses to yourself because these are also virus affecting your brain. You can’t let your precise life by saying just “Parent not supporting me”. This is nothing just a stupid sentence to cheat yourself. You are born to aim high and live your dreams. You can do whatever you want to but only if you think you can. Girls, for you virus is no one but your own excuses of not doing that, you just need to develop antivirus against it which is able is kink out “T” out of can’t and make it can. Think about your antivirus here and focus on solutions. After doing that you can sit with your parent time to time to talk, you can engage your brother, teacher, elder family relative even your friend in conversation as well. The most effective way to getting rid of this virus completely is your mother as she is the best friend of yours. But along these words be sure you never break trust of your parents. Never fall in relationship with a person who has no worth. I suggest you something that would to understand ideal way of spending your student life which is to have 3 best friends, if you want to love someone to do it with books, creating theories & models, writing blogs, painting, drawing, sketching, technology, handmade things or writing. It’s the best way you’ll win the trust your parents and make them proud than they’ll never force you for anything in your life. Yes, I can understand there are girls who have spend most of their student life but you know what, good things can come anytime, it’s still not too late. Discover your Antivirus now.
“Great people live with their choices, everything which is happening in their life is has to be a choice”
Danish Khan Yousafzai
Now, talking about the career starters, for you a virus can be your negative thoughts about your own choice of degree, never participating in positive activities like trainings, seminars, conferences & competitions. If you are doing this than there is a higher percentage of chances you will leave your university with an internal system full of virus. Easily you can be full of viruses like low confidence, lack of speaking skills, not knowing your strengths, not having any career plans and don’t know you’re USP (unique selling point).
A broken heart can also turn as virus to your life. Life is not only about having good moments and relationships all the time. You will experience bad things in your life this is not a big deal, it do happen with everyone. But it’s the after effect that can cause a lot of problems. I have experienced everything in my 24 years life till now. But I always use my antivirus against every bad happening and used the situation to discover myself and to start a new journey.
So, I believe these situations and including all those which are running in your mind fits in this. Let’s acknowledge that yes we all have viruses in our life and it’s affecting a big part of our life. As I always say “Always think on what you want and your eyes should tell the story. Focusing on something makes you an expert of that thing. So, always focus on solution not problems and become solution expert not problem expert”. For us it has to be generating antivirus about all the bad things, relationships, gatherings, and every that stuff which is de-motivating, discouraging you in any way. Great smile, broken hearts, great cheats, death fear, students who are living their student amazingly & effectively, people who are destroying their life and even have no care about it, teachers with great attitude always there to motivate & teachers who were nothing just a negative force, friends who gave all the best they could and yet friends who had cheated, relatives who will celebrate your smile and also relatives who can’t see you succeed, opportunities that are available to you always and your eyes can’t see it and opportunities which are never for you but struggling for it, people who will always dream for things which they don’t have and not appreciating and focusing the things they have, people who are taking their girl friend as just robot or puppet and people who really take care of them not only love but also showing the same degree of respect, feeling in every situation a man experience in this world. Yes I am 24 but have experienced and seen things which 124 year old man unable to see, thanks to All Mighty Allah as I said and believe “We are nothing but just soil and will turn into soil” (Khaak hay or khaak hojaingay)
- We all have negativity in our lives as viruses, which we and we need to identify and develop antivirus against i
- There will be people in every stage of your life who will want you to live on their wishes which is nothing just a stupid wish, create your own road and put vehicle on it
- Get yourself equipped with the tools (career skills) before going into practical life. Utilize your university life and participate as much as you can in positive activities. Attend trainings as much as you and make good friends be in good people always.
- Never run after people, always run after goal and people will run after you automatically.
- Girls, you can do whatever you want to in your life despite your family dis-support. All things are available to you need to avail it. Communicate more & more with your parents, never break their trust, love your books and interest & start living your dream life.
- We all are born to aim high, it doesn’t matter you are on which stage of life but let me tell you things you can achieve your dreams still, still you can do everything, you are for the world and the world is for you. Make every day count & than you can live your dream life.
“When you make your brain in action it’s called mind. Mind is the brain in action, you have to remind yourself who you are! You are more than Bill Gates in building antivirus for your life”
Danish Khan Yousafzai