Living life & doing anything can be very simple and difficult at same time. Whatever we do in our life we do it for our reasons, we never care about the reasons people giving to us. It means whatever you are doing in life it must have two things one is focus and the second is clarity. This is what I call “Mental Button” of any action. If you want to achieve the results you want than these buttons must be in working. Let’s find out what are this button theory.
THE MENTAL BUTTONS:
Let make this point clear that here, every action involve three elements mind, heart and body. All starts from mind. Mind gives you logic; heart gives you emotional & push towards that action and body follow the same input gave by mind and heart. So here this sequence can be;
Mind > Heart > Body
Here I am talking about the mind as I said it gives you logic of any doing, when you are convinced by your mind than it can be amazingly worthily. Mind always asks why? Why I am doing this? Answer only be given if you are clear on two things “Clarity” and your desire (Need) which than can lead you to focus. In case you are studying in university & you don’t know the reason of being there, you are not clear about your degree in which you are studying, you are not clear about the university in which you are, about the teachers who are teaching you, about the friends you have, the relationship you want to quite, you are not clear where you degree will lead you, in which sector, company, organization you want to work after education. Same is the case with when you are not clear when you want to get marry & with whom, when to have your first child, when to move abroad for better employment opportunity, when to decide to start your own business, want to continue your job or want to switch it, in all such situations we mostly stuck just because we are not clear about it & this is the reason we are mostly have dissatisfaction in life. I have heard in my childhood that mental satisfaction is the most amazing thing a man can have. And un-clarity on anything will always lead you to trouble. You can be unsatisfied in your education, job, business, relationships, religious life and in any other domain. Power of clarity in that much, if you have this clarity in your life that why army soldiers sacrifices their life? you will find that they are very much clear about their life & their focus is to save nation in any circumstances, let’s talk about a social worker like Edhi, he is also clear about his life which is to help others, recently great young man from KPK “Aitzaaz Hassan” was clear when got shahadat while a stopping a suicide bomber which prevented hundreds of school children’s, Steve jobs was clear about his I phone idea, despite a lot of rejections Walt Disney was clear that imagination & creativity skills which later help him to create great Disney world. History is witness when Hazrat Imaam Hussein gets shaheed in Karbala he was clear about his stance & which makes him to take great decisions in Karbala, which later turned the history of Islamic world. There are a lot more examples which prove that clarity is the most amazing tool in life you can have.
Always ask one question before any action, are you clear enough about it? Why you are doing it? Do you know the reasons? What you want to achieve out of this? Your objective? Asking these questions will help you in clearing things which will lead you has great focus.
- Asking Questions
Clarity is link with asking questions, some people think that asking too much question will lead to uncertainty and panic but I have experience in my life that asking question is a skill. Most people lack this skill. Mastering the art of asking questions include;
- “Intention (Why you are that question asking)
- Objective (What you want to achieve/learn) and then listening the answer with honest and deep intension.
If you are able to master this than it won’t be anyone to stop you of asking. In Quran Allah says don’t belief blindly go and do research, discover the world, if you don’t know ask those who already know about it. Everything in this world is logical there is nothing emotional. If we have clarity on why were offering prays keeping this things beside that we do it jjst because it order of Allah. Clarity on this thing is what defines a Mommin Muslaman (real Muslim). Difference between a Molvi and Sufi is that, Molvi goes for belief only and Sufi for reasons/facts. Molvi know the ISHQ and Sufi know the ways and reasons behind. That’s why you will see less Waliullah (friends of Allah) as compare to Molvi. Here I want to establish a point asking question, finding facts & reasons of doing anything is a great art and skill, you must try to have it. If you don’t know about it ask those who has knowledge about it but always seek clarity. Clarity builds your belief system and you can defend your view in front of anyone.
Now, let’s talk about focus which you can say the second step of clarity. I believe that
You cannot focus on anything until and unless you clear about anything – Danish Khan Yousafzai
What you focus it becomes your reality and in what you clear about becomes your focus. If you don’t have focus you cannot manage you action, time, energy, strengths, you cannot plan your life & satisfy your mind. Let’s think about it when you are not clear about a given lecture in class, later you cannot focus on that lecture because your mind was not clear about which stops the focus button to be on. If you get admitted in any university but you are not clear why you went there, was it your interest? Or just a wish of parents to be there. If you are not clear about it you will be stuck & now here it will be very difficult for you to have focus. Clarity gives you reasons and focus gives you better ways do things. I have clarity on my skills that is I am good at speaking, motivating & counseling people which helps to focus on things which are related to speaking as I am doing trainings & mentoring, here I can say clarity and focus will help you in choosing career. When you are stuck in life somewhere and unable to make big decision “The mental button” tool will help you. In case you are suffering from a bad relationship with any of your love ones, here you must find the clarity why and what makes you to unfold your relationship with him/her. Finding this answer will lay down the foundation for making good decision.
Here, we always need these two things in life and being student, professional, businessman, teacher, mother, father, brother, sister, lover & friend whatever you are doing in life, always have clarity and focus, only this can make you a successful person.
- Whatever we do in our life we do it for our reasons, we never care about the reasons people giving to us.
- Mind gives you logic; heart gives you emotional & push towards that action and body follow the same input gave by mind and heart.
- Molvi know the ISHQ and Sufi know the ways and reasons behind. That’s why you will see less Waliullah (friends of Allah) as compare to Molvi.
- Everything in this world is logical there is nothing emotional.
- Clarity builds your belief system and then you can defend your view in front of anyone.
- You cannot focus on anything until and unless you clear about ir.
- What you focus it becomes your reality and what you clear about becomes your focus.
- Clarity gives you reasons and focus gives you better ways do things