How to Tackle LONELINESS

How to tackle & utilize your “LONELINESS”

Loneliness can hit you badly or can repair you as well. The biggest question is what is loneliness? How to utilize it to “become stronger?

Well, loneliness is nothing just a time of being with you, talking with you and discovering yourself. It is the most powerful tool if you are able to utilize it.  For me at least, loneliness is the time of making good decisions and to put things on right track. When there is no with you it means there is no one who can tell you that “you cannot do this” by that the negativity factor is gone. So you can decide whatever you want to, you can dream big & plan for it. So, loneliness is not killing its thrilling.

Dear Love birds, I know for you it’s a killing knife in most cases which can cut your soul in seconds, I can understand. But you know, Love doesn’t mean to miss some one if you do it for years you cannot catch her/him but only can miss. Whatever you are doing in your life there is reason behind it, setting in darkness and thinking about love, enemy, past, present, future or any happening is just playing with birds nothing else. You can tear up yourself but you cannot do more than that and it will make you weaker and weaker. And if you want to get your desire or to forget something which is painful for you, for both you must possess the skill of tackling loneliness, because this is the time in which a person can decide to do blunders like to hurt oneself or other and even go for kill is not a big deal at this point of time. For that particular reason I say “Loneliness is greatest enemy of human if don’t know how to tackle it and it can be your greatest friend as well if you know how to utilize it”. Everyone faces such situations in their life, where people have no one around them and they start thinking about the things that has happed, is happening and will happen. The magic sentence is “when there is no with you, you action has no limits” in bad and good both sense. Tension can get bigger and it can be washed away as well. Love can become #ISHQ and you can start hating people like enemy. You can make your mind to breakup with any or can decide to make it good.

Well, who can better understand the power Loneliness than me? I had tough time in my life 3 years back, when I lost everything money, friends, relatives, career, fame, respect and even my close relations. I was broke in pieces in all means when a 21 years boy has nothing to live for, than only one thing can come in his mind which is to leave this world silently. But that was something very far from my thinking. I am witness of this miracle sentences “after every deep dark night there is light and ray of hope” & this happened to me. When you have great believe on decisions you have made in your life despite that whole world is against you, this makes you stronger. When I realized the power of loneliness started utilize it for myself. I used it before is uses me. I discovered myself, know my strengths & took bi decisions and stand for it. I faced a lot of problems in start because taking big decisions is easy but the most challenging thing is to stay farm against the reactions of those decisions. Let me tell this if you can stand and ready to face those reactions you can go beyond the sky and there will be no one to match you thought. I planned my life and decided that someone cannot lead my life or make me realize that what I should and what I am capable off, I am owner of my life and boss of myself. I will decide how “Danish” will go to live.

Dear readers one thing always keep in your mind, when intent “Niyat” is great and true Allah will help you everywhere and every time. After that magical realization about loneliness call is reflection, the time of meeting with you. It’s same like a business meeting with you along with agenda, objective of meeting, meeting minutes, conclusion & future action steps. I am doing the same and its working wonderfully and worked for everyone to whom I suggested.

Whatever is happening in your life you cannot think on all of those as life become so busy these days, for that reason you need to put yourself in loneliness (Reflection and meeting time) to think where I am? Where I have to go? Am I going to on right direction? What good things I am doing and what more I can add on? What are the things which I need to undo? And who are the people to be in contact with? How I can help people? How I can contribute to society and nation? And no doubt how I can become a good Muslim? These all are the question which you need to think in “meeting with yourself” & make any of this your next meeting agenda rather than thinking on who left and whom should I get: P. Make record of every self-meeting and save It. Whenever you want to look at your performance you don’t need to think hard you can just look at this record.

Meeting with yourself is a need of your soul. Let’s say if you are not meeting with any of your friends for months/years the result would be you will lose that relation. The same is the case with yourself we are lost we are no connected with ourselves because we never meet with yourself.

The most Ideal time for reflection is night, when there is no one with you can set alone with silent surrounding.  For me the peak of reflection is when you can listen your breath your soul and you can control your thinking & imagination, you can order your mind and heart to react on certain way. Waoww…. If someone master this reflection skills he/she can live they he/she want.

Learning’s:

1. Loneliness is not Killing its thrilling
2. So, it’s not Loneliness it “Reflection time its Self-meeting with agenda, objective, writing meeting minutes, conclusion & future action steps”
3. You can dream big only when there is no one with to tell you “you  cannot do this”
4. You can do use anything for your good if you think and take it positively
5. Meeting with yourself is a need of your soul.

Love / Danish