In life there are days when you feel blank and you don’t know what to do; every human experience such days at some point in life.
Often I find myself asking, ‘What should I do with this precious life given to me by my Creator?’ and all I got as answer was silence. I couldn’t think of doing any worthy thing that can bring satisfaction to my restive heart. I was struck with the sudden realization of not doing much with this valuable life of mine. Although I have been working as a youth trainer for four years and have trained thousand of youngsters across Pakistan on motivation and success but in that moment I was filled with complete hollowness.
Such moments in life when you have things to see but you become blind, have a heart but you can’t feel, have mind but can’t think and have soul but feel a void inside, are the clueless situations of one’s life. Being exposed to such situations in life is pretty normal, however, the key to survive through this phase, without indulging in to never ending depression and feeling of worthlessness, lies in how one deals with it.
Whenever I am conducting motivational trainings with different youth groups, youngsters often ask me if I have ever felt de-motivated in life. I tell them no human is immune to the feeling of de-motivation; everyone have their low points in life. In fact, I would even say that such phases in life are actually an opportunity to look deeper inside your soul.
This is the time when you should ask yourself, ‘What is the purpose of my existence?’, ‘What is my true identity?’, ‘Am I just a body with an expiry day or am I much more than that?’
Reflecting upon these questions can really help in redefining our perspectives about living life. It helps in setting our priorities right. It also helps in understanding our true value as a human. In Quran our Creator says, ‘We have created humans in the best shape’. This shows that we have been sent in this world with the capability of doing wonders, only if we understand and reach our full potential. Unfortunately, we all have got so lost in attaining the worldly pleasures that we have converted ourselves in to machines.
After realizing all this, I started to find out what if we feel clueless in our life & we don’t know what to do? What major to chose in education? In which career you need to jump in? Which job to chose? Which relation to go with or with which to back off? And many more being clueless and what to do stages of our life…
After all this thinking process I found a belief floating in my soul for years but discover just “Whenever If you don’t know what to do then it’s time to discover something new, because discovery start from being blank which create curiosity”.
Never get tense and confuse if you don’t have any idea what to do just set and relax and make a five minute self talk to remind yourself “get ready you have to discover something new which can amaze you and your soul”. This framing is very important to allow you to enjoy the journey of being clueless and to push you forward to find the real YOU.
When you lost in the valley of self only there you can discover your washed soul. If someone think that being clueless is not blessing then I have question if we knew everything before it happen, then there would be no point of struggle, discovery, meditation & surprise. It is the blessing of being clueless that we search for Allah and his blessing everywhere, we stood in Nemaz to see if we can sent our words to Allah, we go in Sajda to see if he is there somewhere and I can become closer, closer & closer. This biggest blessing in not knowing is as we don’t know when our last breath will escape from our lips and we will die & if we knew this, then life would not be the same.
Being clueless will help you to be selfless which will guide you to go beyond your soul, in such moments you will find your soul is flying you are not you but someone else then, you will breath but will find your current self is dying, your soul would want to take a flight in search of a light that would lighten your ways. Here, observe more and more see how the universe is calling you, here don’t talk just observe the wonders as they occurred around you. Don’t claim them. Feel the artistry moving thorough and be silent. And when you find any clue somewhere then you do things from your soul, you feel like a thoughtful river moving in you.
The ideal belief should be “Being empty is the starting point, it will guide you to enter in your soul then turn your face to all might Allah and become a Sufi in love, do the ISHQ, break all the barriers, wash your soul with beautiful thoughts & you will experience the rain of Allah’s LOVE & get wet, say Shukar and offer Sajood stay there until you are turn back to Allah”